Relative Overload & Perspective
The holidays are always really busy. First it’s the shopping and trying to find something just perfect for all those someone specials that are in your life. Then it’s the obligations that hit you up next, friends having holiday gatherings, work parties, school concerts, the social necessities. Last but never least is the relative overload. It is at this time of year when you see all the Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, In-Laws to give your love and best wishes for the New Year.
It’s unfortunate, but by the time we get to this part of the holidays my kids are usually already worn down from all the stuff that leads up to the actual holidays. They usually get sick with some sort of cold or bug that is going around, they’re cranky and just not at their best…which is the part you want to show off to all the family who only see them once a year. This also starts to apply to me as well…any bits and pieces that I am holding together for a “good show” start to crumble during the inevitable tantrums and full-scale melt-downs that come next.
It is for this very reason that I have the time out in my family. Time outs are a blessing in disguise, they need not be used as a form of punishment or correction for your kids. I tell my kids that if they are feeling overwhelmed by their surroundings to try to tell me they need a time out before their melt-down. With practice this works really well and as a parent you look amazing when everyone else’s children are throwing fits and yours says “Mommy I think I need a time out” – if you want to see the other Mothers jaws hit the floor – give that a try lol.
Seriously though, it is so much nicer not to have those melt-downs and no one ever said Mom’s and Dad’s couldn’t use it as well or that you can’t have family time outs. If you are getting weighed down or the entire family is, make the announcement that you are all having a time out. Take 20 minutes to yourself or as a family and do something relaxing, take the dog for a walk, sing some Christmas Carols or try something silly to get you all laughing and back in the frame of mind you need to be to enjoy yourself.
The Holidays are supposed to be a time for love, joy and family togetherness…if you catch yourself getting a case of the Bah Humbugs give a time out a try!
Be Merry & try to keep it in perspective. For the times that it doesn’t work out, just think of it as Griswald character building experience 😉
Enjoy your holidays ❤